“If Tom had learned anything… it was that you can’t ascribe great cosmic significance to a simple earthly event. Coincidence. That’s all anything ever is. Nothing more than coincidence. There are no miracles. There is no such thing as fate. Nothing is meant to be …”
So this year, on my way towards visiting my folks in India, I watched this movie on our Lufthansa flight (twice over). Whereas I am still trying to digest the movie, one thought kept lingering in my mind as I closed my eyes and tried to sleep. This thought has prompted me to turn on my laptop while we are flying at about 35000 feet, cruising our way towards Frankfurt at about 536 Miles/hr.
So I ask myself, why didn’t they make this movie 5 years back? Why did I not watch it then? I had made some mistakes in my life those days and perhaps this movie might have prompted me not to take those same steps. Even now, at night, when I go to bed, I sometimes wish I could turn back the clock and go back in the past and get a second chance to re-live some of those days. Then, I would do things a little differently on the second attempt. I would then perhaps had been able to shape my life in a different and better route. Unfortunately, for better or for worse, once something is done, it’s permanent, written in stone for ever. You can’t turn the clock back, your past remains with you and you got to learn to move on & live with your mistakes.
Fortunately, I am not the only person with these thoughts. Humans in this world make lot of mistakes in their lives. To make mistakes *defines* what we really are. Most people learn from their mistakes and try to do things differently in the future. Unfortunately, sometimes opportunities present themselves only once and if you fail to grab it then, you loose it for ever. Sometimes, it doesn’t matter what you do in the future, your past already had made it’s deep imprints.
So what if we *could* turn back the clock and go in the past and do things differently? I remember this nice episode from Start Trek TNG where ‘Q’ (though not explicit, it was implied that this was done by ‘Q’) takes Picard back in time in his youthful days but with the knowledge and wisdom of his present day intact. Picard, now having learnt from his past experiences and his past mistakes, takes the opportunity and does things differently. Age and experience has now made him more cautious, reluctant to pick a fight and he does things the way a ‘wise man’ should do. That girl to whom he could never confess his true feelings in his real youthful days is beside him and this time, the old Picard tells her how he feels about her …
But look what he has done! He has taken a different course in his life now. All this new changes in his life has made him into a different man. He is no longer reckless, no longer a risk taker. However, this change also meant that he could no longer achieve the same milestones that he had achieved in his real life. He, as a person has changed. He is no longer the captain of the Enterprise, but only an Ensign.
So the bottom line is, the experiences that we go through in our past make us what we are today. If we could somehow skip those experiences, we wouldn’t be the same person as we are now. We wouldn’t be where we are now in our lives. We would be different. All those failed relationships, all the pains that we have endured from heartbreaks made us wiser, different. It determined how we would react to a situation in the future, blend us into individuals that we would never otherwise had been.
(500) Days of summer reflects some of the experiences from my own life. But should I
regret that they happened? Perhaps not. Yes, it’s the coincidences that build experiences in our lives. Some of these experiences changes our lives for ever.
Now I must turn my macbook off for now. The battery is almost dying and we are experiencing lot of turbulence. Only a little while left before we touch down at FRA.